dare to change

January 29, 2009

I can’t remember how I discovered this book but I know it was back in August and it took 5 full months to get a copy.   My local bookseller thought they could get a copy but it was actually out of print.  An old copy of the book finally made it into my sweet little hands just before Christmas.  From all the reviews I read this was going to be “the” book so waiting drove me crazy.  I’m so glad I hung in there and I now feel it’s my duty to share my thoughts on this book.

I haven’t read it as quickly as I’d like because I can’t bear to read it in bed (this 18 year old book is bad news for my allergies).  Despite this I burned through 80% of the book before vacation.  Then I let it sit.

When I picked it up on the weekend it was even better than I remembered.  All that thinking I was doing last week about why it’s so important to leave was echoed in the pages I was reading.  This surprised me initially but then I remembered that this whole book has felt that way and it’s completely unlike anything else I’ve ever read.  It’s like having a heart to heart with friends who have grappled with the same dilemma and come out shining.  They’re not giving advice or telling you what to do, just sharing their stories.  When you’re in that place where you can’t figure out what’s wrong it can be really hard to talk about it and this book was just the ticket I needed to get started.

The book is essentially an analysis of the common threads the author has noticed in her work with people who have made life changing career moves to better align with their authentic selves.  She calls these folks questers.  Early on I could see how closely I related to these folks who value happiness and alignment over a big paycheck.  Yeah, that’s me, and  just like the folks Kanchier writes about I found myself off course.

I’ve been in a job that I pretty near hate for 4 years and was expected to return to this month.  From the very beginning I had thought about leaving but my doubts were equally large.  The day that I left I knew I didn’t want to go back but I couldn’t figure out what a more satisfying solution would be.   Fortunately the past year has allowed me the time to think about this and I finally have an answer.  I’m going to become a teacher; a Waldorf or at least Waldorf inspired one.

With my new found clarity and an extension to my leave I couldn’t be happier!  This book really has changed my life and it could quite possibly change yours too.



  1. I am glad that you found something to encourage you to seek a totally new direction in your life.

    When I was in Calgary I had a great time but something wasn’t right. I have never liked Edmonton but it never felt wrong. I will be glad to be rid of this place for sure but I am glad of the things it has brought me (a husband and three children and all of the people who have educated me about environmental matters and natural living and birthing).

    I hope that when you are old and look back over your life you will be happy that you found fulfilment and did what made you and yours happiest not what seemed the most convenient!

  2. That is wonderful!! I am so glad that you are finding out what you want to do with your life. I may have to pick up this book when I am ready to go back to work. I was working in the social work field before the birth of Ian and am thinking that I may not want to go back and want to try something different. I have been thinking about teaching too! Thanks for sharing!

  3. I can hear the excitement and confidence in your choices! I feel as excited as you are and you already know that I wholeheartedly support your change of direction. I hope things move as quickly as you’d like them to.

  4. I’m so lucky to have friends that believe in me and this new direction, thanks guys.

    GG, when are you thinking you’ll want to go back to the work force? I can’t imagine working in social work myself but it would probably make for great preparation for being in the classroom. The softer side of things are definitely my weakest – my initial interest in teaching came from wanting to help people have confidence in their math abilities. I’d like to think that all the tutoring I did in that area a decade ago proved I can make that difference and I’ve spent the years since inadvertently picking away at my weaknesses. I really like the whole into parts method used in Waldorf math plus how gentle and cooperatively classes are.

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